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  • I’ve had this idea I’m not going to describe and just sort of think about for a while. I don’t really want to write it, and I don’t think it’s likely to happen, but there is this idea I have that, like many ideas, sounds really, really trivial to me and probably won’t make any sense to anyone else, but there is still the thought about it

    Basically, when I think of the idea of the “self-help” movement, I think of this sort of idea that you get from a lot of pop psychology stuff about mental health or whatever: that what’s really going on, psychologically, is that people are trapped in these bad patterns of thought because they’re not used to thinking “outside” of these patterns – they’re not thinking in ways that feel free to them, like a “non-stuck” mode of operation, and they’re sort of used to just thinking the same thing over and over (“I’m not good enough” etc.) because that’s how they’ve always thought. They are not thinking in “fresh” ways, which means that they do not enjoy thinking in ways that are unusual for them (“outside of the patterns” of thought they’re used to, the ways that feel “natural” and “free”). When they think “outside of the patterns,” this feels uncomfortable, and they don’t really know why. It’s not that they’re unhappy – they’re actually quite happy! It’s just that it feels like they’re being forced into unhappy, un-stuck ways of thinking. They’re not used to doing “non-stuck” things, and they think of it as unpleasant.

    To some extent, this doesn’t seem like it’s going to help anyone. If your mind is stuck in a pattern it can’t get out of because “you’re trapped in these patterns,” then you’re going to find thinking “out of the patterns” a bad thing in itself – not because it’s uncomfortable, but because it’s new, a breaking out of old and worn grooves, and grooves that feel safe and comfortable.

    On the other hand, there is this thing that I find very unpleasant but which I have come to understand is a symptom of the same psychological process as “trapped in patterns.” And that is social rejection. In this “trapped in patterns” scenario, if you don’t think in ways that feel free to you, this leads to social rejection. If you don’t want to talk to people, then this is going to be very easy to do; it’s so unpleasant, it’s almost pleasant in comparison. But if you’re trapped in patterns of thought, this doesn’t work as well, because then you don’t enjoy doing anything. For all that it feels good to be alone, social contact is the one thing that we all would very much like to feel like we’re doing without being self-conscious and uncomfortable about it.

    To a certain extent, of course, you can’t really think of social rejection as the same kind of “mental pattern” that you can think of the patterns of thought that you want to get out of in the first place as. That would be silly, but I think you can still understand why people (including myself) often say that social rejection is what we’d call a “mental illness.”

  • well goddamn frank

  • Well, I guess this is just “this is a bad post.” But if anyone has a problem with this I can try to do better next time. The post is just me sitting in my room thinking about bad ideas, and I think that’s an admirable quality. (Most of the posts on tumblr, from the ones I see, are pretty meandering – “I had the thought and wanted to share” is actually an admirable quality. “I have thoughts, I have a blog” is not.) When I feel anxious, I generally start writing posts like these.

  • NONO FRANK THAT WAS A GOOD “GODDAMN”

    I meant that this was amazing and wowed me because of the sheer amount of brainpower that got put into this

  • 4 months ago on January 14, 2023 at 5:54 pm

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      My brainpower isn’t so big anymore, but yeah
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      NONO FRANK THAT WAS A GOOD “GODDAMN”I meant that this was amazing and wowed me because of the sheer amount of brainpower...
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      ough this is hitting a little too close to home
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